How to spot love bombing on dating apps

He texts you 20 times a day. Buys you flowers weekly. Calls you “the love of his life” after 2 weeks. Sounds romantic? It might be **love bombing** — a manipulation tactic common in PH dating. Here’s how to protect your heart.

What Is Love Bombing?

Love bombing is when someone overwhelms you with affection, gifts, and attention early on — not out of love, but to gain control.

7 Red Flags of Love Bombing in PH Context

1. “Ikaw na bahala sa buhay ko” after 1 week — Too much too soon
2. Isolates you from barkada — “Bakit ka pa lalabas? Samin na lang.”
3. Future-faking — “Next year, tayo na sa Canada!” (but no action)
4. Jealousy disguised as care — “Sino yung lalaki sa story mo?”
5. Grand gestures, no consistency — Flowers today, ghosting tomorrow
6. Makes you feel guilty — “Kung mahal mo ako, gagawin mo ‘to.”
7. Pushes for commitment fast — “Pakasalan na kita!” in 1 month

Why Do Men Love Bomb in PH?

• Cultural pressure to “secure” a partner quickly
• Fear of being left for someone richer
• Narcissistic personality (masked as “macho”)

What to Do If You’re Being Love-Bombed

• Slow down the relationship
• Observe actions, not words
• Talk to trusted friends (not just him!)
• Remember: Real love is calm, not chaotic

Real Love vs Love Bombing

Real Love	Love Bombing
Respects your pace	Rushes you
Supports your dreams	Wants you dependent

FAQs

Can love bombing turn into real love?

Rarely. It’s usually a pattern of control. If he’s love-bombing now, he’ll devalue you later.

Conclusion

You don’t need fireworks to know you’re loved. Real love is quiet, steady, and kind. Don’t confuse intensity for intimacy, Pinay.